"I've been burdened with blame.. trapped in the past for too long. I'm movin on"

Some things I've learned:

• When God tries to show you that a relationship is bad for you, don't stay in it to try and fix it yourself. There are signs, don't ignore them. "There is a way that seems right to man, but in the end it leads to destruction" -Proverbs 13:12

• I am a woman of principle. I not only have a learned knowledge of who I am and how I should be treated, but I also have an understanding. I know who I am in the eyes of God and I understand my worth. I am firmly committed to not living beneath my privilege. "NEVER settle for less than God's best for you"

• I know where I am going and I know what I want, and I won't land until I see my destination and get clearance from God "Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain, but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord shall be praised (Proverbs 31:30)

• When you allow the love of God to change your nature and transform you into the principles woman he intended you to be, you blossom into a beautiful flower that others will want to admire. And the beauty of a flower is that it just is. It doesn't bend over backwards, it doesn't perform, buy gifts, make phone calls, or make the first move. It doesn't do anything special to get attention. It just stands tastefully in its place.

• LOVE looks patient and kind. Love looks honest and truthful. Love looks determined to go the distance. Love looks hopefully and enduring. Love looks like it holds on no matter what. LOVE does not look jealous or proud or rude. Love doesn't look irritable. Love doesn't look like a quitter, and it never looks as if it loses faith in the object of its affections. God wants women to be treated in the same way He treats us. "God so loved the world that he gave his only son" - So, if God felt giving was necessary to prove his love for us, what should we expect from men?

• If a man is not completely submitted to God, he will not have the capacity to love you in the way you want to be loved. He will be moving in his own understanding instead of being led by the Spirit of God. This leaves you at the mercy of someone who has no accountability to anyone other than himself for his selfish actions. Find a man who's heart is so tuned into God that he won't mistreat you because he knows that God is holding him accountable.

• Do NOT be a missionary dater. Meaning: you cannot change or fix a man. Only God can do that, so let him be the missionary not you. Instead, focus on inspiring and empowering him to rise up and be the man that God has ordained him to be, and when he doesn't. LET HIM GO.

• Lastly, don't remain in situations where it's clear that you are not being appreciated for the gift that you are. You are the gift, don't hang around a guy who thinks he's doing you a favor by being around and gracing you with the privilege of loving him. Get rid of that guy.

All the terrible things that a man you love does to you are only done by someone who never understood your value. He wouldn't recognize love if it walked up to him, slapped him in the face and spelled out his name. Who needs that guy? The only true love that guy will be finding is himself.